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In April 2015 I wrote A MANIFESTO ON HAPPINESS. This week I wrote ANOTHER MANIFESTO ON HAPPINESS. Drawing from these two personal declarations, I struggle mightily with tolerance for quiescence and duplicity. I have considerable difficulty understanding how any one individual, given the opportunity, would not choose to learn how to live. Yet I look around and see many individuals, with opportunity, choosing quiescence, duplicity, and ignorance. This sounds harsh. It is harsh. It is what I see.

Perhaps I need to better understand that many individuals are afraid. And that many individuals are afraid to admit to being afraid. Based on recent feedback, in this moment I am uncertain if I am one of these individuals; or not. In this moment I can see multiple past moments in which I chose quiescence, duplicity, and ignorance. In this moment I can foresee the potential for multiple future moments in which I will choose quiescence, duplicity, and ignorance. This sounds harsh. It is harsh. It is what I see.

And herein lies the larger difficulty. If I am aware of my personal uncertainty; and if I am aware of my personal ignorance; and if I struggle mightily with tolerance for another's ignorance; then how am I to express my frustrations, ingenuously. How am I to move beyond this newfound, debilitating self-vilification...

...Except to first heighten my tolerance for the widespread quiescence and duplicity I see in all directions; including within.

Is there another choice?

I cannot compel or coerce or legislate knowledge over mindlessness; presence over absence; skepticism over groupthink; uncertainty over blindness; tolerance over malice.

I cannot compel or coerce or legislate flexibility over clinginess; hard work over easy; discretion over thoughtlessness; humor over drama; transcendence over comfort.

I cannot compel or coerce or legislate an all-hands-on-deck search for wisdom.

I see no other choice.I must heighten my tolerance for the widespread quiescence and duplicity I see in all directions; including within.

I must endeavor to expand this compassion equitably; even when the effort does not appear to be equitable. I cannot know, with any degree of certainty, another's level of effort. So, I also cannot know, with any degree of certainty, how my effort compares. And in this regard, I will never attain a completely objective perspective. But with critical analysis, that includes feedback and a "minimize harm" component, I believe that I can heighten my tolerance, in all directions; including within.

I need not compel or coerce or legislate my Humanity. My Humanity comes shining through daily in the mistakes I make; in the alternative I choose; in the effort I put forth; in the apathy, malice, and hatred I express in my thoughts, words, and actions; and in the tolerance, compassion, and love I express in my thoughts, words and actions.

I need not compel or coerce or legislate my Humanity. My Humanity comes shining through in the moment. In this moment.

Enough said?

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Enough said.

I have read multiple times, from multiple thinkers, that to study philosophy, or to philosophize, is to learn how to die.

So if Philosophy is the love of, and the search for, wisdom, and if wisdom is some balance of knowledge, experience, skepticism, uncertainty, tolerance, flexibility, effort, discretion, a sense of humor, and transcendence, then it appears to me that to learn how to die, is to learn how to live.

The more I fear death, the more likely I am to ignore death and/or renounce death. If I ignore death and/or renounce death, I am living duplicitously.

If I have any questions about death, I must learn how to die, so I may learn how to live, ingenuously.

Following is a portion of a poem I penned approximately eight years ago:

My wife and kids, they think I'm weird
     I find it such a treat
I'm so content, enthralled, endeared
      Upon that cushioned seat

We all must have a place of peace
     A sanctumesque retreat
A place to go-let go-release
     Replete-discreet-complete

Upon my mower I hold dear
     The power and the noise
Snug seat, cup holder for my beer
     Penultimate man toys

Drowns out all sound; my mind roams free
     My troubles disappear
I sing, I cuss, I shout with glee
     Because no one can hear

It's like a thousand waterfalls
     Struck dumb with wondrous awe
The Man Gods have decreed to all
     Horsepower is Man Law

This summer I have rediscovered these joys.

This week I have read some arguments that maintain knowledge is NOT the exclusive realm of the brain. These arguments challenge the common assumption that motor skills, (such as playing tennis), do not require knowledge because knowledge requires verbalization, and it is difficult (to impossible), to provide a detailed, verbal accounting of, (or even be aware of), the knowledge utilized before, during, or after demonstrating the skill. Sure, the tennis player has knowledge of the game and proper technique, but I am confident that the tennis player does not consciously think, "I will put this foot here, and that foot there, and pull my arm back to 18 degrees behind and 7 degrees below my shoulder, and..." One is hard pressed to account for knowledge in the arm or legs. Yet, how many people do we know who talk with their hands? And who is to say with certainty that this is not knowledge? The argument could certainly be made that these arm gestures appear to help some individuals with reasoning and thinking. One argument I read likens this bias toward the brain as the sole seat of knowledge, with the drunk looking for his keys under the streetlamp because "that's where the light is;" (though he freely admits that his keys could be anywhere on the street). The brain is where the light is.

(*I should note that all of these paraphrased arguments have come from "The Stone Reader: Modern Philosophy in 133 Arguments" edited by Peter Catapano and Simon Critchley.)

This interesting argument against convention, extends to nonbiological body parts such as cochlear implants that obviously aid in knowledge. And from there, though I believe we may agree that the brain is the throne of knowledge, one essayist argues that the smart-phone, (and other similar technological innovations), might also qualify as a lesser seat of knowledge.

And this brings me back to my bright yellow mower seat. Yes! I am going to argue that this is an aid in acquiring knowledge, and it therefore, (with a small leap), also qualifies as a seat of knowledge. Knowledge need not reside in the brain. Knowledge can live in muscle memory, and in a biological arm or a prosthetic leg, and in the warm, calming influence of a morning shower, and in my Blackberry, and even in my bright yellow mower seat or the nearby cup holder; (I don't know about Johnnie Walker wisdom, but I can certainly attest to the impact of a strong cup of coffee).

While mowing, I feel energized and electric. After five hours on my mower, I feel full and content. When I initiate a connection, my mower knows something that I don't, and I am fortunate to glean some of this knowledge during this otherwise, seemingly mindless process.

Yes, without the brain, the knowledge attainable from these extensions to the body and the world cannot be processed. And yes, I must create that connection; but once I do, I find an esoteric transfer of knowledge from the lesser seat to the light. I am learning. I find knowledge in my mower seat, and, occasionally, in the cup holder.

Extending Happiness

In recent weeks, I have observed multiple examples (involving various individuals), of one individual saying one thing to another individual, and then contradicting their original statement by saying something completely different to a third party. I believe this is a common occurrence; and some would say, necessarily so. I would agree that this Creative Courtesy is an unavoidable and very human trait, and I believe that it can be necessary, and I believe it can even lead to learning and growth. But I also believe, (especially in the presence of excessive emotion, groupthink, and/or dogmatic inflexibility), that Creative Courtesy can lead to unnecessary and damaging divisiveness. And I believe, that in many cases, individual reflection is more appropriate than the process of verbal expression, reassurance, and one's search for justification.

To visualize these possibilities, I imagine the face of a clock, with Creative Courtesy ranging from the 4 to the 8. If Creative Courtesy is defined as saying one thing for the sake of peace and goodwill while thinking something entirely different, then my best intentions stand at the 6. From here I have three choices:

1. Stay at the 6; stay neutral; stay nice.
2. Move counterclockwise toward Nonproductive Criticism (4 to 2), and Destructive Truthfulness (2 to 12), becoming increasingly verbal, careless, hurtful, and then deliberate and intentional, as I move.
3. Move clockwise toward Productive Analysis (8 to 10), and Constructive Truthfulness (10 to 12), becoming increasingly more thoughtful, compassionate, verbal, and flexible as I move.

This is an oversimplification, in that I do not move in an uninterrupted progression. If I move, it may be a progression and/or become more predictable, because over many trials, I am more likely to develop tendencies toward one direction or the other, and/or to one extreme or another. But in every instance of movement, there are frequent interruptions, multiple layers, and a complex web of action, reaction, interaction, and overreaction, that will impact each circumstance, (even similar circumstance), differently.

In recent weeks, I have seen a fair representation of movement on and around the face of this clock. Depending on (the aforementioned) capricious influence, one does not always follow the orderly circumference, but may set out across the face of the clock, one time finding a shortcut from 7:30 to 5:30, and another time bouncing rapidly from 9 to 3; and possibly back again.

For me, it is rather obvious that I must work to move clockwise; and I must work to understand the differences between Productive Analysis and Nonproductive Criticism; and I must work to maintain a worst-case-scenario of 6. I have previously touched upon this choice of being nice vs. being truthful, and, (if memory serves), I have previously allowed productivity to determine my movement; or non-movement. The challenge with this is gauging if well-intentioned truthfulness will ultimately be constructive or destructive. This week's thought exercise has helped me to see that if I go through a process of sincere, compassionate Productive Analysis that includes a "minimize harm" component, (though my Humanity will not alllow Perfection), I can still, in good conscious, then choose to fall back to 6, or advance beyond 10, being careful that my momentum will not take me beyond 12.

Two weeks ago I espoused the idea that truthfulness is the next step leading toward justice. And I ended that post saying, "For all of Humanity, in all of existence, justice is the greatest good." Immediately preceding this, I said, "For me, in this moment, justice is a lesser evil."

It feels that much of my tendency toward judgmental, Nonproductive Criticism stems from this disconnect between "Me" and "All of Humanity." I have much difficulty seeing both myself and this "Bozo" over here, (who is taking advantage of circumstance to circumvent justice), as equitable parts of Humanity. Sure, I have performed similar maneuvering to take advantage of various circumstance, and sure, if I had their advantage, I might do the same or something similar; but I make these choices for Me. I have to. I have to get ahead any way I can, and there's a big difference between Me and them. So if and when it is not fair to me, they shouldn't take advantage.

For many of us, that is justice; even though it is not. To see this double standard, and to admit to this double standard, is truthfulness. Truthfulness has the potential to sustain and fortify skepticism, education, and focused effort. Truthfulness has the potential to close the gap between my inner Bozo and all the other Bozos as we stumble over each other competing for advantage. Truthfulness has the potential to move me further from injustice, and closer to justice. Constructive Truthfulness is the next step.

You! I shall cast ye out into the barren wasteland to lie forlorn and forgotten for all your remaining days. You shall gather layer upon layer of dust, and you shall never again walk the sun-dappled, fertile ground of my thought or consideration. You are soon to be but a mere mote in the furthest, darkest crevice of my memory. You are beyond reach. Now slink or slither to your eternal hidey-hole and let not another word, thought, or deed traverse the boundary herein laid down. You! Whoever You May Now Be! Be Gone!

And You! I shall condemn ye to a Lifetime of harsh judgment, unjust summary, and perpetual punishment. You shall tremble, cower, and wither, in angst and fear, beneath the abuse. Yet, and though, yea verily, you shall also be blessed by my intermittent attention, and by my efforts to harden you to the realities of your largely insignificant existence. And you shall ultimately be grateful for the lessons learned at my cruel hand. You are fortunate. Now Bow! And Back Away! Eyes Down! Be Gone! Out of my sight, but within the sound of my command.

And You! I shall keep ye at my beck and call, for my amusement. You shall cavort, and carry on, and be always spritely; and you shall enjoy my lively banter, my humorous recollections, and my cheery and sunny disposition. You shall gather others of like ilk, as is prescribed and necessary, for my further amusement. You shall guard against and steer me from excessive melancholy, and you shall instinctively know the most opportune moment in which to pull me back from this brink. Now Go! And Sing! And Dance! And Forever and Always, Be the Fool!

And You! I shall call on ye to manage my affairs. You shall count my Gold, and you shall multiply my Gold, and you shall regularly report my new Gold. You shall always strictly adhere to all verbal, written, and implied policies, procedures, rules, and regulations, and you shall never question said policies, procedures, rules, and regulations. You shall never question my ability or my authority. You shall always maintain an even temperament, and you shall never succumb to any temptation that may distract from your only purpose: My Wealth and Well-Being. Now Go! Be Fruitful and Multiply!

And You! I shall deem ye significant. You shall be honored and thusly, you shall also, deem me significant. I shall reciprocate; and you shall reciprocate; with gratitude; with favor; with togetherness; with kindness; with affection. We shall have these moments. And we shall have other moments. And in these other moments, I shall cast ye out; and I shall condemn ye; and I shall keep ye at my beck and call; and I shall call on ye; and I shall, again, deem ye significant. Now Go! And live within this Curse. And live within this Blessing. And Forever and Always, Be My Fool.

My World is so ordered.

And Now Me. I shall work to know me as ye; and I shall work to know ye as me. I shall feel the reality of being cast out; and condemned; and kept; and called. I shall feel the weight of that waste and sludge spilling out of ye; and as my own waste and sludge flows forth from me, I shall see it for what it is. Though it may feel different, and though it may even give me pleasure, I shall understand that there is no difference between the release of my muck and being bogged in your mire. Having learned from the past, I shall live in the moment, for the future. Now I shall Go! And I shall Live! And I shall, one day, Be Gone.

My Future is so ordered.