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Two weeks ago I considered simplifying by diluting disciplined thought through partisanship, preoccupation, and acquiescence. The week before that I identified disciplined thought as a healthy mix of objectivity and subjectivity; and I also differentiated between disciplined thought as a path to learning and growth, and disciplined busyness as purposeful distraction. This week I have been more busy, and less thoughtful. Shame on me!

But now I am forced to write (because I can't not), therefore I am forced to think for myself.

Damn It.

So here is what I am thinking this week...

For many of us it appears that it requires less effort to 'do' for oneself than it does to 'think' for oneself. When I ask 'Why?' the first answer that comes to mind is because (for many of us in this culture) it is easier to just go along than it is to think first. To think first adds a task which many of us feel we are simply too busy to do. Yet as I dig, I realize that doing for oneself has more potential for unintended consequence than does thinking for oneself first and then acting according to that consideration. Stated as such, this sounds obvious; and I believe I have swam this stream before but at this point I will not muddy the waters with a (conscious) rehashing of past thought. I want to see where I go with this.

Surely we do not choose to not think based solely on simple selfishness... and laziness... and obliviousness... and ignorance... and obedience... Okay; perhaps not so solely or simple but obvious nonetheless. There has to be something more... Beneath the surface? Or am I asking the wrong question? I want to look at both of these possibilities.

Beneath the Surface: 

When I ask the question 'Why does one choose not to think for oneself?' and come up with the umbrella answer 'Because it is easier.' is there something lurking besides the simplicity of not having to think?

Perhaps some of us are taught not to think; (though this goes back to simple obedience). So perhaps a better answer is that too many of us are not taught to think. This week I stumbled across and reviewed (in a book and on 2 or 3 web sites) logical fallacies. How many of us recognize, understand, and can explain Slippery Slope, Ad Hominem, Strawman, and Begging the Question? Before this week's review I would have struggled mightily, and even now I might pass a multiple-choice test but I would likely fail an essay test; (I now have a goal for the coming week). And if we cannot recognize a logical fallacy, how do we know what and when to question?

In this same context, how many of us can identify (in general terms) the contrasting philosophies of Plato and Aristotle; (I might do some better on an essay test here, but would appreciate a little time to review). What better way to learn how to think than to study great thinkers. This failure is not only an individual failing, but also a sociocultural failing.

Anything else?...

Of course there are systems in place that encourage us not to think. These include political struggles for power and control, bureaucracies, consumerism, wealth, laws, justice, customs, mores, and ritual, (and I'm probably missing a few), all of which may have (or may have had) their place and purpose but still contribute to our reluctance to think. In this context, I suppose one could point back to indoctrination as an overlying answer to the 'Why' question; but in a sense that takes us back to education (or the lack thereof). If we do not know how to think, we do not know what questions to ask; and even when we have questions, indoctrination, perceived majority opinion, and/or  fear of (some degree of) retribution creates a disinclination to ask.

So were these systems intended specifically to quiet (and control) the masses? Or were they initially more noble in purpose and have simply evolved into the misshapen aberrations characteristic of (at the least) some elements of each? I believe it possible that many systems may begin with noble intent and evolve into an exercise of power, fed by the abundant comfort and vainglorious complacency enjoyed by the vocal majority. Regardless it is systems such as these (strategically placed just beneath the surface) that often lead to the illusion of walking on water.

So I have (so far) found systematic, purposeful deformity and a lack of focused, meaningful education hidden just beneath the palpable waves of selfishness, laziness, obliviousness, ignorance, and obedience. Is there anything else? Perhaps words? I have always heard that actions speak louder than words, yet it is often unconsidered words that compel action; and these words are (too) often spouted by another. I agree that actions speak louder than words, but if they are another's words I believe the resulting action to be arbitrary and potentially dangerous. I maintain that one's thoughts - thinking for oneself, translated first into words, rehashed as thought, brought back to life as words, and then (after questions are answered) translated into action - are far more effective. Thus, mere words and arbitrary action I believe to also be monstrosities lurking just beneath the surface.

I am sure there are other cryptic, shadowy dangers, some just beneath the surface and others deeper. But I need to move on.

Wrong Question?

Instead of asking 'Why do we choose not to think?' we could ask 'Why would we choose to think?' - But I believe (for the most part) this will only give us answers at the opposite end of the same spectrum. However, a renegade (not for the most part) spin-off to this line of thought would be to ask 'How do I (as an individual) convince others of the importance of thinking (for oneself) before doing (for oneself)?' And the best answer I have come up with for this question, so far, is to lead by example. It is good in theory, but, (again, so far), I have not seen sterling results. But then, I am also confident that I have not been a sterling example.

Is the right question then a 'Who?' question as in 'Who is in charge?' Am I in control of my thoughts? Or am I handing that responsibility to the powers that be? This seems a bit simplistic, but it is a thoughtful start.

Could we ask a 'What?' question as in 'What do I choose not to think for myself?' (This could also apply to 'Where?' or 'When?'.) And I believe this question to be relevant in that we are at least considering circumstance and perhaps picking our battles. We all need to (at least to an extent) plan and prioritize and so perhaps this question (What? Where? When?) will aid one in more efficiently focusing personal thought.

We might ask 'How one can (in good conscience) choose not to think for oneself?' but I cannot answer this for anyone except myself.

Are there other questions that could be asked to shed light on one's predilection for doing over thinking?

As I said at the beginning of this post, this week I have been more busy than thoughtful. So perhaps to discover why, I could examine circumstance. I could ask if my busyness is purposeful distraction, or if I could redirect some energies to disciplined thought? As this week has progressed I have done the latter. Though to do so I have literally had to carve out time, (finding 20 minutes here and half an hour there), to advance this written thought. It was perhaps made easier because (as I also said at the beginning) I can't not write. As Aristotle so eloquently said:

"We do not act rightly because we have virtue or excellence, but we rather have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit."

So perhaps the most relevant question would be 'What new habits must I develop, (and what old habits must I let go), to move closer to excellence?' I have developed the habit of disciplined written thought, and though this is good, I am still far, far, far from Excellence. This coming week I will study thinking in the context of logical fallacies. Additionally I will consider personal habits (or the lack thereof) and effortfully strive toward improvement and progress. By asking this question and examining my personal habits, I am compelled to think for myself in a way that will positively impact my actions. Thus I am thinking before doing, and (with discipline) I am not as easily distracted or influenced by circumstantial mediocrity.

When I began this post I did not plan or foresee moving toward an examination of personal habits. Yet now that I've arrived, I see that it is important. And this vividly illustrates the value of consistent disciplined thinking for oneself.

I have espoused the precept 'Do No Harm' in 20 different posts throughout this site; that is more than 10% of my weekly posts. This week I have returned to and read these 20 posts and maintain that in context 'Do No Harm' is valid as an overriding principle that every individual should consider with every decision / choice made. The reality though is that in some decisions there is harm done and (I believe) typically this harm is (and/or should be) a conscious choice to inflict short-term harm for long-term gain. Following are questions that should be answered before harmful action is implemented:

1. (a) What is the long-term gain and the short-term harm, (specifically)? (b) How does the long-term gain trump the short-term harm? (c) What (specifically) is meant by long-term and short-term? and (d) Have we considered potential unintended consequences of the harm being done and their potential for further (short-term or long-term) impact?
2. Are the individuals (or is the individual) being harmed also included in the set of individuals that will reap the long-term benefit?
3. If I were the 'inflictee' instead of the 'inflictor' would I understand this decision and agree with it?
4. Would a majority of those being harmed understand this decision and agree with it?
5. Would a majority of those who would benefit understand this decision and agree with it?
6. Would a majority of the remaining world population as neutrals not impacted by this decision understand it and agree with it?
7. Would your Mom - (Dad, Grandmother, Grandfather, or other highly-influential, close, personal, ethical role-model) - understand this decision and agree with it?

I believe that after careful consideration of #1 and #2 above, if any of the remaining questions can still be answered 'No' further examination of questions 1 and 2 is required.  And ultimately, after this further analysis, if there still remains a 'No' answer for questions 3 thru 7, (possibly excepting #4), perhaps the plan for action should be restructured.

For many this process may appear cumbersome and inconvenient (particularly the analysis in #1); and granted, we cannot be expected to foresee all (butterfly effect) potentialities, but some effort must be made if we are to progress.

Additionally I acknowledge that considerable subjectivity goes into this analysis of harm, yet I maintain that we can (and should) rein in the subjectivity while optimizing objectivity. In the post Humble Happiness from September 2012 I differentiated between the subjective realms of spirituality and emotion, and the more objective realms of fact and reason. These seven questions are helping us to think through the Wisdom of harm, and to answer as objectively as possible. Ideally we would check our heavy cloaks of spirituality and emotion with the coat-check attendant and go into this experience scantily-clad in only our ability to reason through facts and argument; many people are not comfortable with this.

Above I stated that "in context 'Do No Harm' is valid as an overriding principle that every individual should consider with every decision / choice made." And the context thus far has been individual choice. I have not previously differentiated between an individual decision and a decision made and/or invoked in the name of a group. Apparently we are wired to cooperate within our group and compete against other groups; so this differentiation must be made. When I speak of groups, I refer to anything from a family unit of two to a powerful nation of millions or billions, and all manner of organizations, corporations, and bureaucracies between and beyond that can readily identify an out-group (Them) to contrast with their in-group (Us). Group decisions are often made by leaders, or committees, or other governing bodies (elected or otherwise). Many decisions made in-group are made by individuals who are given the power to do so in the name of the group. When an individual (especially an inexperienced individual) makes a decision for a group, if they have not been given instruction, training, or guidelines to follow, ego and politics can influence to create unintended harm. As a group becomes larger, the complexities intensify, and the bureaucratic result increases the potential for harm; a harm that may then become invisible to the decision maker(s).

But I digress; ...somewhat.

The issue at hand is to minimize harm, and as previously stated each individual one of us should take responsibility for doing so whether we are making a decision for our self, individually in the name of a group, or as an individual voice within a larger decision-making body. This can and should be done by asking the seven questions previously listed and objectively considering potential results. But how do we utilize these ethical guidelines within a larger group to ensure objectivity? Or in the face of two smaller groups within that larger group? The self-defeating dynamics of divisive competition within planned or expected volitional cooperation are...well...self-defeating. An obvious example is our own government in which conservatives and liberals (and a myriad of other even smaller special interests) compete to cooperate within the larger context of the government of The United States of America. For groups this large (and bureaucratic, and confused, and chaotic) emotional, ego-driven, dogmatic, bias will always trump reasoned debate and analysis. Though much more colorful and entertaining these security blankets of subjectivity must be removed before a productive examination of ethical decision-making can occur.

So what? I'm not saying anything we don't already know. Though I believe it is a fairly concise and workable matrix for individual decision, there is nothing magical in that list of seven questions to simplify the ethical decision-making within a large group. I cannot point to #5 (for example) and say this is the key question that will allow competing groups to cooperate in a larger context. It has taken me 3 painful paragraphs to say "So What?"

In this post I have encouraged individual responsibility for ethical decision-making that will minimize harm. In previous posts I have encouraged narrowing the playing field to create a common ground to aid in minimizing harm (most notably in The Spirit of Happiness), which requires considerable objectivity; (an objectivity also strongly encouraged in this post). Additionally in previous posts I have advocated for education (most notably in Global Happiness and Apprehensive Happiness) to speed the evolutionary process (which I believe at some point in future generations to be inevitable) of recognizing that the shrinking of this planet (due to technology) dictates a change from a priority of 'Us over Them' to  primary consideration for a 'Global Us'. We have made (some) progress on Racism so why can't we fast-forward past all manner of Themism? Instead of Conservatives and Liberals, why can't we be Liberatives on common ground? Why can't we recognize the Goodness preached in a large, large majority of religions and let go of the divisive dogma, intolerance, and hate of indoctrination? I could go on...

...and I may.

But for now I am seeing that to minimize harm we need:

1. Individual Responsibility for Ethical Decision-Making.
2. Objectivity.
3. Common Ground.
4. A Global Us.

We cannot have objectivity without first taking individual ethical responsibility. And we cannot find a common ground subjectively. And we will never recognize and act in accordance with a 'Global Us' until we see 'Us' (or at least visualize 'Us') together within that common ground. There are some who believe competitive groups can learn to cooperate; and these efforts are valuable because subjective thought will always create competition, and subjective thought will never (and should never) go away. But by definition these efforts to simultaneously compete and cooperate will be a struggle. Yet if we are able to learn and grow into the aforementioned shrinking planet mindset, perhaps we can eliminate some of this competitive struggle by seeing the preeminence of the Global Us, thus encouraging the ethically responsible objectivity of a common ground.

It is a nice picture.

To drink from a raindrop...
To play in a soap bubble...
To work in a shoe box...
To suffer in silk...
...and burlap...
...and silence...
To drown in a teardrop...

I was disturbed and saddened this week when I read, (in 'Moral Tribes' by Joshua Greene), of a study that showed endorsement of a policy by conservative or liberal leadership had more influence than the actual policy substance. The study participants were shown a generous welfare policy endorsed by conservative leaders, and a restrictive welfare policy endorsed by liberal leaders. Both policies created significant majority partisan support, despite the fact that in a parallel study in which there was no policy endorsement, (as would be expected) conservatives preferred the more restrictive policy and liberals preferred the more generous policy.

As I have pondered this paradoxical behavior this week though, I am considering a change of heart. This consideration was influenced this morning by an off-the-cuff remark I made to my wife. On the way to work, as I found myself climbing down from my soapbox (-a frequent occurrence-) I said, "I'm sorry; some days I get tired of myself too." (I should note that my wife is very kind and patient, and had not said a discouraging word, nor even rolled her eyes; though I was preoccupied with a safe dismount, so I could have missed an eye-roll.) But I am being truthful when I say this vigilant effort at learning and growth for a better understanding can wear on one's body and mind, and these seemingly futile efforts toward fruitful communication can wear on one's spirit.

Perhaps there is something to be said for partisanship.

Perhaps it is time to simplify and stop thinking for myself. If I can let others do my thinking for me, perhaps I will have more time for HBO; (I like HBO).

Perhaps I should switch my reading efforts exclusively to fiction, and restrict my writing efforts to grocery lists and Scrabble score pads.

Perhaps my credentials are not as impeccable as required by those 'powers that be' who set that standard for those allowed to influence. I admit I am an old, low-ranking, pedestrian bother, full of imperfections and faults, only working part-time, and with a disability, a government check, and a low credit score. I know in the eyes of many I would not make their grade, so why should I care about things (I cannot impact) and people (who don't want to be bothered)?

Though I have learned my place, perhaps I should stop shouting at passersby, and learn to live quietly within my designated restrictions and limitations.

Perhaps I should no longer work at leaving a better world for generations to come; (including my beautiful granddaughter). Perhaps instead I can live within the utopian bliss of Shangri-la with all of my friends and neighbors; (we could join hands, smile, sing sunny tunes, and be happy together).

I know you detect a touch of sarcasm, but I really do like HBO. And I am sure there are studies that show if I surround myself with cheerful, smiling people, I will find myself smiling and feeling cheerful. So Why Not? Why should I bash my brains into oblivion when I could just walk right in? And be welcomed with open arms!

Put this way, the choice appears to be a no-brainer...

We have a tendency to panic when we cannot trick ourselves into believing we are in control. Oftentimes we put on a brave front but depending on the perceived degree of turbulent helplessness, within (our minds, our guts, our hearts), there may rage a storm; which in turn may easily impact one's physical well-being. The truth is that when we perceive ourselves as having control, we are in actuality a mere heartbeat from chaos, turmoil, upheaval, distress, annoyance, discomfort, displeasure, or disturbing / troublesome points between and beyond. We don't like to acknowledge this reality.

Additionally, we don't like to be reminded of this reality in the form of others in turmoil. There are some others who appear to like the drama of upheaval, and for those individuals it is not difficult to find (and oftentimes exaggerate) the pain; but it is also not difficult to recognize these individuals and apply a grain of salt. And for those others who are in (what we perceive as) legitimate pain, we tend to apply the maxim 'time heals all wounds' and/or we shun these individuals until the maxim actually begins to work. We also appreciate those who appear to quickly bounce back from adversity (at least partially, if not mostly) because it helps us to avoid the second-hand pain. But what of those (due to inexperience, lack of opportunity, ineptitude, or actual destructive impact) who get stuck in pain and either cannot see the value of resilience or simply do not care? It is easy to advise someone not to pile pain on top of pain, yet throughout this site I have maintained that pain and adversity create learning and growth opportunities and ultimately carry us toward Truth, Wisdom, and Happiness; but as in anything, there can be too much of a good thing. The challenge is (especially with a loved-one) knowing when to let them see your pain as a result of their pain; and this is often accomplished by exhibiting frustration or even anger. Verbal concern, proximate empathy, and perceptive compassion are all necessary, appropriate, and helpful - to a point; but there will come a point when (I believe) one must choose to either 1) push, 2) walk away, or 3) indulge from a distance, so as not to also become mired in the muck and slop of another's despair. When it comes to anyone (but especially my family), I am not a coddler, and I find it very difficult to create distance by walking away or becoming a bystander; (pain should not become a spectator sport). But I also find that I often tend to push too hard, too soon.

I am not going to waste words on defending this predilection toward high expectations and (what may appear to some as) lack of patience. I believe an active awareness will assist me in softening my hard edges, quieting my quick tongue, listening for understanding, and openly acknowledging my own many mistakes and imperfections. Reminders such as this written thought help me to be actively aware, which has really been (as I look back) the main reason for these past three-and-a-half years of weekly ramblings. And I think in this (roundabout) way I have discovered what I am really thinking about this week - the value of consistent, disciplined thought, leading to learning and growth, as it applies to my daily existence.

• Some weeks I write to stay sane; (and that is not a large exaggeration).
• Some weeks I write to express frustration, learn from it, and move on.
• Some weeks I write to allay fear.
• Some weeks I write in response to another's thoughts; (most typically as I've absorbed them in their writing).
• Some weeks I write to organize my thoughts on a particular topic or concept.
• Some weeks I write to discover new or unacknowledged thoughts.
• Occasionally, I write for fun.
• Some weeks I write in circles.
• Some weeks I write to inhibit impulsive action.
• Some weeks I have, (especially at the beginning), written to teach; which is how I learned that I am both teacher and pupil.
• Some weeks I begin writing simply to maintain the discipline.
• And most weeks I write to maintain a sense of control.

...which is where I began; but this week I am not going to chase my tail.

(NOTE: I had a similar train of thought to the 'bullets' above in this post from last September.)

No matter the specificities surrounding my chosen (or accidental) thought for the week, after 190+ posts, the overriding reason has become (as already stated) "the value of consistent, disciplined thought, leading to learning and growth, as it applies to my daily existence." Which leads me back to, (though I promised no circles), the desire to help others see the value in objective consideration of subjective experience.

My method for considering personal experience as objectively as I am able, is to translate thoughts and feelings into the written word. This act of writing (for me) clarifies the emotion, without removing it. In a sense it adds a level of rationality allowing me to see my feelings from above and still feel them from within. Unfortunately, or perhaps fortunately, this method lags behind real time, meaning that 'in the moment' emotion often drives action or reaction. This is unfortunate because as rationality catches up I may discover that my behavior was arbitrarily improper. Yet this is also fortunate because it is honest and I believe it forces me to better evaluate and learn from the experience.

Not everyone writes; but perhaps everyone should. In this moment I cannot think of another medium that would come close to the advantages I have found in disciplined writing... but let me think...

... ... ... ... ... ... ... ...

I see that a case could be made that any creative expression would allow one to translate thought and feelings through an assortment of innovative or inspirational endeavors. These could include literature, painting, drawing, sculpting, theatre or film, music, dance, photography, culinary arts, and many craft occupations or hobbies. In addition to participation and/or performance, some may say that an intensive study of these arts, or various humanities, would help one to focus and organize thoughts and feelings. And from there I suppose that we could allow that creative expression is possible in any discipline one might find, say in a listing of degree programs or even course offerings at any major university. And from there it is a short jump to claiming that immersion in an organization and/or a (perceived) 'good' cause is adequate expression of one's thoughts and feelings. And where to next? Perhaps devotion to a charismatic leader? Or a sports team? Or a computer game? Or a television show? I think we have crossed a line somewhere in this progression, but where?

Where is it an expression of consistent, disciplined thought that helps us to evaluate and learn? And where does it become a vehicle for the purpose of distracting us from pain and adversity?

If one is able to operate a remote control, one is able to think. And if one is able to think, with disciplined effort, one is able to organize thoughts. The challenge becomes remembering previously constructed thought formations, and then re-evaluating and re-interpreting them.

In this moment I cannot think of another medium that would come close to the advantages I have found in disciplined writing.

(Yeah, I know... ...but it was only a small circle.)