Finesse: “skill in handling a difficult or sensitive situation; adroit and artful management.”
Heavy-handed: “oppressive, harsh, clumsy, graceless.”
Hands-off: “characterized by nonintervention or noninterference.”
I would argue that any situation involving interaction with another already is, or has a strong potential for being, difficult or sensitive.
When interacting with heavy-handed, one tends toward hands-off.
When interacting with hands-off, one tends toward heavy-handed.
In a multi-player game when caught in-between, one learns finesse.
So if it is a horizontal spectrum from 0 to 100 with heavy-handed to the right, hands-off to the left, and finesse at 50, where is power?
When interacting with greater power, one tends toward hands-off.
When interacting with lesser power, one tends toward heavy-handed.
When interacting with greater power that tends toward hands-off, one learns finesse.
When interacting with lesser power that tends toward heavy-handed, one learns finesse.
Power is two spectrums of the same length forming an X, both intersecting the finesse line at 50 (all lines 60 degrees apart) with greater power above and lesser power below the horizontal.
No good comes from an interaction between heavy-handed and heavy-handed.
Nothing comes from an interaction between hands-off and hands-off.
Improvement or progress from an interaction between heavy-handed and hands-off depends on proximity to finesse.
A level-playing-field requires finesse.
Power tilts a playing-field.
Heavy-handed tilts a playing-field.
Hands-off tilts a playing-field.
When interacting on a level-playing-field, much is possible.
Very, very, very, very few playing-fields are truly level.
Perhaps instead of going into a situation with or without power, heavy-handed, or hands-off, one should practice finesse.
One should excel at finesse.
So does this mean that to help finesse along, when I interact with greater power I should tilt toward heavy-handed and when I interact with lesser power I should tilt toward hands-off?
Yes; gradually until power becomes a non-factor.
Though (in my experience) very unlikely, if/when power becomes a non-factor, finesse becomes not only more possible but likely.
Multi-player finesse is necessary for improvement or progress beyond baby-steps.
There is no finesse in literal interpretation.
This week when I gave my current department two weeks' notice they had difficulty understanding why I would make a lateral move when I have been fussing about pay for more than two years. According to their yardstick, pay, I am an average employee (recently promoted from below average) compared to those in the same position. Utilizing that same yardstick I am moving to a department where I will be a top-paid employee in a lesser position. For me pay is not about pay, it is about justice. And I believe my performance consistently warrants top pay, (which I am now receiving), though I did not get a pay raise. Justice. I was never asking for money; I was asking for justice. And I was only asking for personal justice in a circumstance where I could compare apples to apples. Don't get me started on the injustice of the power-driven, heavy-handed wealth gap.
Justice requires finesse.